Monthly Archives: June 2010

Blog Structure & Reading List

Creating a pathI’ve decided to add some structure to the “Body Image Rehab” blog.  In looking through my books the other day, I came across a book I purchased a number of years ago called “200 Ways to Love the Body You Have” by Marcia Germaine Hutchinson, Ed.D.

This book includes 200 short exercises designed to aid in increasing appreciation and love for our bodies. I’ve decided to incorporate these exercises into my blog posts.  I will complete an exercise and share the thoughts and insights I gain through the experience.

About “200 Ways to Love the Body You Have”

Marcia Germaine Hutchinson states that learning to love our bodies is a process that involves several basic activities:

  • Getting to know your body and your relationship to it.
  • Making conscious choices about how you would like to live in and feel about the body you already have.
  • Recognizing and transforming the negative “self-talk” that keeps you stuck in body struggles.
  • Discovering who you are, and trusting and valuing the self that inhabits your body.
  • Recognizing that your sense of self-worth can rest on much more than the state of your body.
  • Allowing your feelings about your body to benefit by association with the person you are.
  • Realizing that mastery over your body can never make up for a life that is only partially lived.

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Body Confidence

Joy in One's BodyLast week, I watched a repeat broadcast of an episode of “The Tonight Show.”  This episode featured a plus-sized model named Ashley Graham (click here to see a clip).  The reason she was a guest on the show centered on ABC’s refusal to air her Lane Bryant ad during an episode of “Dancing with the Stars” on the grounds that it was too revealing (see New York Post article on this).

Jay Leno had heard this story and felt the ABC decision was ridiculous, especially in light of the numerous Victoria’s Secret ads which are aired during many television broadcasts.  Leno wanted to increase awareness of the issue of discrimination toward plus-sized models, so he invited this young model to appear on his show.

A Strong and Unexpected Reaction…

Watching Ashley Graham on “The Tonight Show” elicited a strong and unexpected reaction in me, which is why I’ve chosen to write about her in this post.  When Jay Leno introduced her, Ashley glided out on the stage dressed entirely in spandex.  While she is a very beautiful woman, she is definitely much curvier and voluptuous than most of the models we see in magazines and on the runway.   I didn’t feel that the spandex ensemble was the most flattering thing she could have worn (spandex isn’t the most flattering thing for anyone, in my humble opinion), but that isn’t at all what most struck me when I saw this lovely woman.

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Clothing Woes

What should I wear?I love clothes… and I hate clothes. Whether I love or hate clothes at any given point in time is very closely aligned with my body image.

If I’m feeling okay about my body (I almost wrote “good,” but sadly “okay” is about as good as it gets for me…), I embrace the clothes in my closet and the process of shopping for new clothes.  Conversely, if I am feeling fat and unattractive, I don’t want to wear anything besides the workout clothes I wear when working from home each day.

Searching for a Feeling

I have a closet full of clothes, yet I generally only wear a small fraction of them.  I have a tendency to be a compulsive shopper (see my post titled “Overspending” in my sister blog, “The Healing Project”) and I’ve come to decipher the reasons why I shop for articles of clothing I don’t even need.  I’ve learned that I’m searching more for a feeling than for a pair of pants or a blouse. Subconsciously, I believe that if I can find the “right” pair of pants, I will magically be able to relax and stop hating my thighs so much.

No Magical Properties in Clothes

Of course, clothes do not possess such magical properties.  They cannot heal our damaged body image or our negative feelings about ourselves. However, I do believe it’s beneficial to dress in clothing which flatters our bodies and is comfortable and stylish.  I feel better about myself and the day ahead when I make an effort to dress nicely, but there are many days when it seems to take a Herculean effort for me to do this.  Today is one of those days…

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